Twin souls and the like
A "twin soul" or "bestie" is a person whom the individual meets again and again over long periods of time, perhaps forever. These relationships are characterized by a strong intensity and a sense of belonging, although they are not always frictionless. "The dark side becomes so dark with the twin soul, and the light side becomes so bright." When they are pleasant, they can be described as a "coming-home-love". So-called codependency can be explained in this way, namely that it is someone with whom the person has been closely connected for several lifetimes. John Lennon and Yoko Ono are an example of this type of relationship.
But then it is difficult with such a twin soul relationship, so to speak, it is difficult. So you are... If it's hard enough with a normal relationship. But imagine if you have patterns from thirty lives together, what a lot of patterns
A platonic, never-realized love relationship at a distance with someone can also have this basis. The people know each other, but the circumstances mean that they cannot be together in this life. However, there is a strong sense of belonging. The times you are not incarnated at the same time as this person to whom you are particularly close, the other can act as a guardian angel or you can be in telepathic contact in some way. This kind of relationship affects everyday life, but can be difficult to communicate about or gain understanding from others. A respondent who had a difficult upbringing says that she feels lucky that she was already open to different relationships at a young age. As a child, she had playmates that no one else could see: "It was these little people back then. In the forest or in the garden.”
It is possible to be telepathically enriched by someone else's progress in their personal or spiritual development. One of the respondents describes how one day she felt a great relief or liberation. When she spoke to her mother some time later, she understood that this experience was related to something the mother had gone through at the same time. Such telepathic influence can also be distressing. That a loved one is unwell or in some way out of balance can be perceived and influenced even from a distance. What we think and feel does not stay on the inside but will have an effect on the world outside. This entails a great responsibility:
All the thoughts you think, all the words you say and all the actions you do, ALL of that is energy that sort of moves around in the universe. And a lot of negative thoughts and evil thoughts, just like evil actions, they DO harm.
With the notion that everything and everyone is connected and that even the individual's thoughts and moods have an impact on the environment, also at a distance, the question arises what happens to the individual's inner space (Jemstedt, 1993). Is a private or secret sphere even possible? What consequences could this otherwise have for the view of identity, relationships, closeness and distance? Main (1991; referenced in Farias & Granqvist, 2007) writes that research on 6-year-olds with ambivalent attachment showed that they had difficulty understanding "privacy of thought", which can be linked to the fact that the neo-spiritual worldview of these individuals in adulthood possibly then may feel familiar.
Even here, however, it is possible to speculate about an alternative cause that rather has to do with an influence of or a habituation to the thought system itself. A world with limits is likely to be more difficult to live in than a world without limits, which is possibly enough of a reason for the neo-spiritual worldview to be perceived as an attractive alternative.