Guiltyness provides the ability to care and desire to repair. It saves the individual from his egocentrism. Crucial to the depth of life and relationships is the ability to feel guilty. This is a psychoanalytic opinion, but is no stranger to Christianity. But for new age/newness, it is.
At Klein there is the commute between aggression and repair, where guilt and care for the object is regulatory and cohesive principle. It is never – in the individual's mind – completely out of control. The relationship is maintained.